I have a motto when it comes to staying friends with my exes: "If I liked you, I'd still be with you." I am clearly a posterchild for choice over nature when it comes to sexuality, because every other lesbian in the world appears to be genetically predisposed to stay friends with her ex.
Any dyke over the age of 25 knows that The L Word's "Chart" of lesbo hookups is no work of fiction. In every group of lesbian friends in America (and probably the world), you will find a web of lesbian entanglements, breakups, and heartaches. Half of these ladies have slept with (or, in the least, made out with) a minimum of three other members of the group. And for the particularly easy amongst us, most of the other members of the group. So why, you ask, do these gals stay friends after the magic is gone? Are lesbians a higher form of creature, able to overcome their petty jealousies, bitter breakups, and distant memories of hot-and-nasty sex?
No such luck. The truth is that lesbians stay friends because, simply put, they can't get away from each other. It's difficult to avoid your ex when you run into each other every Saturday night at the the only gay club in town. It's hard to give someone the silent treatment when you both play outfield on you local lesbo softball team. It's impossible to dis your former flame when you have all of the same friends and attend all of the same potlucks. And this, ladies, explains the phenomenon of lesbian dating circles.
Personally, I just prefer to move away from my exes.
Friday, April 25, 2008
Staying Friends With Your Ex
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I think it's more necessity than desire. One dyke bar in Seattle... where else of the ladies going to meet their new future ex-wives if not at the Rose... where the ex is currently on the hunt for her future ex.
Again...
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Apparently both lesbians and dykes stay friends with their ex... who knew?!
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My last year of college, I ended up in the funny position of rooming with another lesbian - statistically pretty damn unlikely, but there you go. I had a messy breakup in November, tried to stay friends with my ex until sometime in January, then gave up and blocked all but one way my ex had to communicate with me. My roommate was in a miserable relationship with a girl who she just couldn't ditch. When we shared our horror stories about relationships, she was AMAZED that I never stayed friends with my exes -- most of them, I never spoke to again after the breakup. Me, I don't get why anyone stays close to an ex. I mean, dumped for a reason, yes?
Another way to avoid exes is to have them all claim to be straight once you break up. Guaranteed you will NEVER see them again.
Hmmm...I'm m0ving on. And me and my ex were quite ok "i guess". We're still having a little chitchat but all were about blogs.
Great post! Straight folks just don't have any idea how much fun it is to wonder who'll be out at the bar on a Saturday night...or which ex they'll run into!
great blog! me and my girlfriend had a good giggle. we are going to try the hummus sometime.
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